How to get closer to my husband?

Question

Hi doctor,

My husband is suffering from stress. My husband does not share anything with me, but he does share his feelings with his mother. I am unable to handle this and I am becoming weak internally. Everyone is after my husband's health. But, no one understands my situation. Due to such tension and stress, I am also facing health issues. There is no friend of mine with whom I can share things. Most of the time my husband feels stressed. When we plan to go out for some holidays and every time he cancels it.

Answer 1

Hi,

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Your problem is shared by so many women, where even after marriage the status and stature of mother is far bigger than a spouse. The way males are brought up, most of them never become emotionally independent and secure. They are grown up to become dependent slaves of parental figures. Wife is always considered as an outsider with no blood bonding. This is the reason why your husband confides into your mother-in-law rather than you. You need to tell him that as his life partner, you deserve to be his confidant. You have to convey to him that you can understand his problems better than his mother as you are the closest person in his life and belong to the same age group and you need to be more assertive for your emotional needs. Please talk to him about the need to consult a doctor for counseling. It should be either a psychiatrist or a clinical psychologist.