Why am I getting angry often?

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Patient's Query

Hi doctor,

I am a 25-year-old female. I cannot control my emotions. In certain situations, I easily get angry and irritated. I also start blaming the other person for the mistake. I take everything negatively and also speak in a negative way. I do not have patience during that time. Please give me some advice.

Answered by Dr. Saraswat Kumarshri Shriniwas

Education:

MBBS

Professional Bio:

Dr. Saraswat Kumarshri Shriniwas is a Psychiatrist with 19 years' expertise in Psychotherapy, Sexology, Counselling, and Sleep Medicine. He holds an MBBS from Maharashtra University of Health Sciences (2004) and his D.P.M from the College of Physicians & Surgeons of Mumbai (2008). Dr. Shriniwas specializes in diagnosing, preventing, and treating mental disorders, assessing patients for comprehensive care at Mind Care Peace Centre, Jalna, Maharashtra.

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Hi,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

You are suffering from an intermittent explosive disorder which is an impulse control disorder. In this, there is an explosive anger outburst during which your anger makes you do and utter things like blaming others, which you regret after the episode. Most patients describe a sense of build-up of tension before and after the episode. It is almost always followed by guilt. The core elements of therapy for anger issues have three aspects. Identifying triggers, deep breathing techniques, and expressing your displeasure. I advise you to identify the triggers for anger and take preventive measures when you feel the tension has built up. Also, stepping away from people and counting numbers till your anger cools down is a simple tactic. Follow deep breathing techniques to prevent anger from building up like the 4-7-8 technique (relaxation breathing). Practice it for a minute four to five times a day. It will relax you and prevent tension. Also, closing your eyes, imagining that you are on a beach, and then deep breathing is a simple and highly effective ways to cool down in the midst of an anger episode. If you express your displeasure and the cause of your anger in words rather than in actions or high-pitched tones, then there is nothing to fuel your anger. I advise you physical activities such as cycling, jogging, dancing, or swimming daily for relaxing your body muscles because anger builds up mostly in a tense body. Also, listening to music will help. If you can learn and practice progressive muscle relaxation from a therapist, then it is excellent to prevent anger episodes. If it is frequent and to prevent complications in your relationships with others, then consult your psychiatrist doctor to begin medication and start therapy with your psychologist.

Thank you.

Medically reviewed by iCliniq medical review team
Published At September 15, 2016
Reviewed At June 19, 2023

Education:

MBBS

Professional Bio:

Dr. Saraswat Kumarshri Shriniwas is a Psychiatrist with 19 years' expertise in Psychotherapy, Sexology, Counselling, and Sleep Medicine. He holds an MBBS from Maharashtra University of Health Sciences (2004) and his D.P.M from the College of Physicians & Surgeons of Mumbai (2008). Dr. Shriniwas specializes in diagnosing, preventing, and treating mental disorders, assessing patients for comprehensive care at Mind Care Peace Centre, Jalna, Maharashtra.

This doctor is not available for online consultations on the platform anymore.

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Education:

MBBS

Professional Bio:

Dr. Saraswat Kumarshri Shriniwas is a Psychiatrist with 19 years' expertise in Psychotherapy, Sexology, Counselling, and Sleep Medicine. He holds an MBBS from Maharashtra University of Health Sciences (2004) and his D.P.M from the College of Physicians & Surgeons of Mumbai (2008). Dr. Shriniwas specializes in diagnosing, preventing, and treating mental disorders, assessing patients for comprehensive care at Mind Care Peace Centre, Jalna, Maharashtra.

This doctor is not available for online consultations on the platform anymore.

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