What are the ways to set healthy boundaries in relationships?

Question

Hello doctor,

I am a woman in my late thirties and a single child to my parents. I have been married for a few years. Unfortunately, my mother, who is in her early sixties, interferes way too much in my married life. Also, she still considers me as a child even though I work in a responsible position. I have not conceived even after many years of marriage; however, my mother is not allowing me to go for an IVF treatment and forcing me to adopt a child. I wish my mother stays fit, fine, and healthy, but I do not want her to interfere in my life.

Kindly advise.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I understand your concern and would be happy to help. As it is your choice, life, and body, only your husband and you can understand the pain. I suggest you talk to your husband and maintain a distance from your mother if required. Sometimes, it is crucial to maintain a healthy boundary. Too much attachment to your mother could have led to this problem. A good case history is necessary to diagnose and suggest a treatment plan. Try to make her understand that you are an adult now and are capable of making the right decisions. I suggest you consult a professional counselor to counsel you and your mother. I hope this helps. Do revert in case of further doubts. I suggest you contact a counselor as early as possible for a counseling session.

Thank you.