Why am I unable to protest verbally though I can?

Question

Hi doctor,

My writing skill is very strong but verbally I cannot protest at all against difficult people. My verbal communication skill is proper and organized if and only if I am focused and conscious at that moment. Otherwise, I tend to be unprofessional and non-intelligent in speaking. Even when a friend illogically shouts over me, I cry over the phone and still keep talking in a gentle manner. My logic remains in my mind, but I just cannot speak out, which in turn disturbs me later. Sometimes, I get angry by thinking I could not stand up verbally for myself at the right time. In the past, I was taking Trinicalm plus. What is the problem? I have a feeling that either I am too gentle, less courageous, lack confidence, or definitely soft-natured and lack mental strength. Please help me.

Answer 1

Hi,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

Sometimes, it happens because of low self-esteem. Hence, you need to work on it. You need aversion therapy. You do not have to interfere with others' rights but, on the other side, you have to stand for your rights. Do not be very cruel or too innocent, and then people will start teasing you. Remain in between. For some people who are having predicted behavior, you can prepare answers beforehand. So, you will get some self-confidence. Also, do not think too much about others. Forget everybody. Focus on yourself. Remain happy and tension free.

Thank you.