I am confused about my decision of getting divorce. Kindly help me.

Hello,

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Thank you for writing to us. We are happy to help you. I have gone through what you have shared, and it seems that you are going through a difficult time with regard to your husband. I understand how it feels to be in a relationship which is not giving you anything and it is only taking away from you. When you say you have asked your husband for a divorce, did you do that legally or just verbally? A relationship needs efforts from both sides and as per the information shared by you, you are the only one who has been taking care of your son alone and looking after the household. Did he take money from you for gambling or is he working? Is there any other kind of abuse involved in your relationship? Taking a decision as to whether should you stay with him or not depends entirely on you. However, to take this decision what will help is to weigh all pros and cons carefully, and if possible take advice or suggestion from someone who knows both of you and can still stay objective. Also, it is important to think about the kind of future you are looking for in your life. Does that include your husband? Regarding the feelings of guilt that prop up, are they what he is inducing or are they your own? Do you feel you would be doing something wrong by getting out of this relationship? Answering the above questions will help you get clarity as to what should be done next and what would be best for your future.

Thank you.

Hi,

Welcome back to icliniq.com.

I understand that it is hard to take a decision. Your husband is making your life easier and at the same time expecting all the past to be forgotten just like that. And you find it difficult to forgive and forget what has happened. I would again suggest you pen down the positives and negatives of your marriage and share them. Out of whatever you have shared till now, the positives are he has stopped gambling and started contributing at home monetarily. The negatives are reminds you of the past and make you feel guilty for wanting to have a divorce. Please add to the list and take a decision wisely.

Thank you.