Thank you for your reply. The feeling of guilt is due to that he has quit gambling for the last three months and now helps financially, treating me nice and yet I cannot feel in love with him. The wounds are too deep. I feel pity for him that if I divorce him, he will be sad and destroyed. He understands that I seriously want a divorce. He says things for me to feel sorry for him and when these words are not working, he begins threatening me. I understand he is hurt now, but will he eventually calm down and accept what I want? Am I selfish? Should I just stay with him and be miserable for the rest of my life for him not to suffer? We also have a son aged 7.