How can I stop thinking about my imaginary life?

Q. How do I stop my imaginary life from influencing my real life?

Answered by
Dr. Awadhesh P. Singh Solanki
and medically reviewed by iCliniq medical review team.
This is a premium question & answer published on May 25, 2017 and last reviewed on: Aug 21, 2023

Hi doctor,

I am a 19 year old girl. I have a very stupid habit that has caused a lot of problem for me, I have met a lot of psychologists, but I could never talk about my exact problem with them. It seems to be a ridiculous problem, but I ask your sincere help. When I was 15 years old, I watched a romantic movie which caused my problem, since then I made an imaginary life with an imaginary man in my mind. I have got involved with this problem for years. When I was a child, I had difficulties which I could not solve at that time, so I started fantasizing and tried not to involve myself in real life's problem. But then, there was no love in my imagination, I was a very happy successful girl, and I was a famous, respectful person. But after I got defeated at a state level game, I understood that I am not intelligent enough to achieve such goals, I was so depressed with no enthusiasm in studying. I got to know about sex and intercourse, I was confused and hated my gender, I thought of changing my gender. I had depression, and I was so disappointed about life. Then I started to imagine a man who lived with me, and I loved him so much. Instead of facing my life problems, I used to fantasize about him. From last year I have imaginary sex with him. The problem I have is that my life is interrupted by my imagination. I cannot deal with other students, especially boys. I have lost my confidence, do not have the enthusiasm to study. I cannot focus when I am in the class, and I do not take any efforts to solve my problem. I just keep imaging a peaceful life with no problems, sometimes when I cannot control my anxiety and stress, I start having sex in my mind. I do not know what to do, and I want to stop this imaginary life. How do I stop this imaginary life and love? I know this man is not real, and whenever my imaginary life becomes sad, it has an influence on my real life. I currently take tablet Levebel 500 mg, two tablets a day.



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Thanks for sharing your problem with me. I can understand your problem. You have given a complete elaborated history regarding your problem. You are having repetitive thoughts and are obsessed in your virtual fantasy world. Your problem comes under obsessive compulsive disorder and it is completely curable and commonly found in the society. I will suggest you few things as follows. Keep in mind that irritating and intrusive thoughts are temporary and medicines will help you to overcome this problem. Sexual fantasies at your age are commonly found in the population, especially who are having sexual restrictions because of culture and rituals. After marriage, these symptoms vanish with time. Poor self-esteem is a sign of depression. Visit a nearby psychiatrist, and start taking medications like Escitalopram, Fluoxetine, and Risperidone to recover from these symptoms. Do not worry about these symptoms, study well, keep yourself busy in outdoor games and spend free time with the family and friends. Hope my answer helped you, and feel free to ask whenever you need my help. Thank you.

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