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Is it possible to recover from digital infidelity?

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Answered by

T. K. Lakshmi

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iCliniq medical review team

Published At September 13, 2022
Reviewed AtSeptember 13, 2022

Patient's Query

Hi doctor,

What steps can couples affected by the Ashley Madison hack take to best preserve their relationship or marriage (tips can apply to both the cheating partner and the other involved partner)? These suggestions may also be useful if a partner is caught cheating in other situations.

What is your definition of digital infidelity? Do you believe each couple should define infidelity because everyone has different expectations and boundaries? Do you believe it is necessary to establish explicit "rules" or boundaries in relationships before marriage, such as not sleeping with other people? What is your reasoning? What are some tips to help married couples and people in committed relationships avoid the temptation to cheat through technology and websites such as Ashley Madison?

Answered by T. K. Lakshmi

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I understand your concern.

Communication, in my opinion, is the most important tip for avoiding being caught in a cheating attack. Communicate with your partner and try to accept the truth. In any situation, one should not overact or react. To avoid things getting worse, one should always respond to situations. The partner who cheated should accept reality, and the partner who cheated should also accept reality. The act of infidelity itself is a breach of trust. This is true in any case of infidelity. Digital infidelity, on the other hand, is eroding trust in digital media. A marital trust cannot have rules because it is not a contract with an expiration date. It is a lifelong relationship. To build trust, each partner must first understand the other. However, I believe that establishing rules for fostering trust in a marital relationship is pointless. It is not a business contract but an emotional bond. One must clearly understand this fact.

Here are some tips that can help you preserve your relationship. As I previously stated, communicate your needs to your partner. Many problems are solved through communication. Most families struggle with communication because they fear their partner will misinterpret their words. Positively express what you require or expect from your partner. Each partner must comprehend what love entails for the other. It could be spending time together or could be a gift. It could even be a small hug or gesture. One has to understand what love means to the partner. Every person has both positive and negative characteristics. So accept your partner as they are, flaws and all. Nobody can find the ideal partner. So accept your partner as they are, flaws and all. Be patient while you wait for the right moment. Time heals all wounds and teaches all people. So be patient and optimistic. A good marital relationship is built on trust. Trust your partner even if they are incorrect. Your positive attitude will influence your partner.

The Probable causes

Patients have encountered such situations with family or friends under stress and work pressure.

Investigations to be done

Family history and situations and the financial status of the patient.

Treatment plan

Psychotherapy and counseling are to be given to the partners and the family.

Preventive measures

Educating about inter-personal relationships and marital relationship.

Regarding follow up

Review after a week.

Same symptoms don't mean you have the same problem. Consult a doctor now!

T. K. Lakshmi
T. K. Lakshmi

Psychologist/ Counselor

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