How to become a more independent person?

Question

Hi doctor,

I am a 23-year-old female. I am doing my graduation. I am a little moody, and I want to live my life in my way. I do not want my parents to bother me. Their mentality is old. They do not want to accept new generations like us. They think if I wear a short dress, it means I am characterless in front of them. They say I am an adult and I got the age to get married. I want to live, and I want to do a job. I also have some hobbies like playing guitar, acting, singing, and traveling. I thought that once I get a job, I will fulfill my wishes. Yes, these are all my wishes. For these, my parents will not allow me. They insult me all the time. I have a sister. When I want to talk to her, my mother will take her to another room so that I am unable to spend time with her. Sometimes I feel suffocated inside my home. They took me to a nearby psychiatrist, and my mother wanted to prove to me that I am psycho. I felt down and wanted to cry out loud. So in this situation what should I need to do?

Answer 1

Hi,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

In the present situation, you should focus more on your studies and get a job as early as possible. A good job will result in independence, and this will help you in making the right decision. The difference in opinions and thinking is due to a generation gap, and this cannot be ignored. A balance between you and your parents is needed. It is achieved when you go to a job and become independent. Stop wasting time on minor issues. There is no need to get married if you do not want it.

Thank you.