My partner is ignoring me. What should I do?

Question

Hello doctor,

What to do now? I was in love with a girl for five years when I was doing my college and then I told my parents and they did not agree. She also loved me back. In her home also they will not accept. Now both of us are not talking for the past one and half years. I am working now and she is studying now. I used to meet and send her texts when I got leave and miss her. Now she does not want to talk to me. This time I asked her if she is free to meet me. She told she is busy. Now, is she really over me or just protecting me? What should I do to get over her? Sometimes, I feel like everything is over between me and her but then suddenly I miss her a lot. Is this how it is going to be always?

Answer 1

Hi,

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The best answer is to ask yourself whether you wish to and looking forward to marrying her or not? If not, you need to move on. A girl, unlike man, cannot call and text you just for the sake of pleasing you. Girls are always under the radar of their family and society. They need 110 percent assurance from you. They just cannot be your time pass. In your case, it is difficult for you to persuade your and her family but not impossible. If you really love each other you may have a fighting chance. During the last one and a half year of non-communication, she has probably decided to move on with her life as she got no real assurance from you. So call her, and try to meet her if you really are interested in marrying her. Or else, let her be a part of your good memories and move on.